Hong Kong Hitch

 

Think YOU have trouble with online dating?  Try being a Chinese soldier.  According to The Guardian, military personnel in China have to stick to dating the “old fashioned” way:

China‘s military officers have added matchmaking to their duties, after the government banned troops from online dating over fears that lonely hearts might let sensitive information slip, state media said today.

Commanders of the 2.3 million-strong People’s Liberation Army (PLA) are studying how to help single service members find love, the official China Daily said in a report on new rules governing what troops can and can’t do online.

Blogs are out, along with internet dating, online job hunts and even making friends in the virtual world under the internal affairs regulation, which came into effect on 15 June, the report said, citing a military newspaper.

“People with ulterior motives may make use of the soldiers’ personal information and pose a threat to the safety of the army,” Yang Jigui, an officer in Tibet, told the PLA Daily.

His team in the town of Shigatse is seeking matchmaking help from local government offices and the Communist party’s women’s federation, the report said.

The China Daily said an internet search had turned up personal sites with information about single soldiers and articles containing sensitive military information.”

Poor suckers.

 

The title speaks for itself, but I’ll say this.  While this was a regrettable outcome, meeting someone online is no different than meeting a stranger in the “real world”.  You have to use your best judgement and be careful. No amount of checking can filter out all the creeps and crazies in the world.

From Cnet:

“You never know whom you are meeting on dating sites.

Now, one California woman is trying to get a court to declare that you actually should be told the bare minimum: whether your potential date is a convicted sex offender.

The woman, identified in legal papers as Jane Doe, is suing Match.com, according to ABC News.

Her attorney, Mark Webb, held a press conference this week to explain the philosophy behind the suit. He said his client had no reason to believe that the man she met through Match.com had previously been convicted of sexual battery.

Criminal charges are pending in the incident alleged in the civil suit, according to ABC.

“When somebody uses their credit card to pay, [Match.com should] basically run the card through a sexual offender database,” Webb said. ABC reported that a Match.com lawyer said the company is unable to create such a screening system. It’s a little unclear why, though.

 

This is news, but not to us at HKH.  According to Channelnewsasia, the Chinese, especially the men, need to get over their fear of online dating:

“With about 50% of China’s Internet users between 24 and 40 years old, online dating services are taking off in a market estimated to be worth US$800 million, as more Chinese turn to the Internet to find potential marriage partners.

With the Internet as a main tool used for social networking among the younger generation, the online dating market is expected to grow even further.

Online dating portal ‘Shiji Jiayuan’ was established by Ms Gong Haiyan, who set up the dating portal after she experienced trouble finding a marriage partner on other online sites.

“Members of those sites signed up for different purposes. Some only wanted to make friends; others wanted one night stands; some wanted to make business contacts”

The website eventually took off, now boasting a database of 30 million singles, and sponsors dating shows on television.

“Chinese are brought up being told not to speak to strangers. So it is hard for many to approach an attractive stranger since they are timid and shy. The Internet is a good tool for meeting people as it is much easier to start a conversation with a stranger online.”

Despite the boost the Internet provides for partner-seeking Chinese, many more may have to stay single for a long time.

According to a recent study, more than 24 million Chinese men could find themselves without a partner by 2020 – due to a skewed gender balance caused by China’s One-Child Policy and a cultural preference for boys over girls.

In 2005, there were 119 men for every 100 women.

Some areas had as many as 130 men for every 100 women, according to the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences.

Male migrant workers are more likely to remain single, because low wage levels makes it even harder to find a wife.

“Most single women would have found a husband faster if only they lowered their standards. The issue of ‘left-over ladies’ is really an individual problem but the issue of ‘left-over men’ is a social problem,” said Ms Gong.”

Yeah, so, time to jump in the dating pool…

 

From our friends at OKCUPID, a few common sense (you’d think) bits of advice about how to make first contact with someone online.  The two biggest in my opinion:

“Be literate

Netspeak, bad grammar, and bad spelling are huge turn-offs. Our negative correlation list is a fool’s lexicon: ur, u, wat, wont, and so on. These all make a terrible first impression. In fact, if you count hit (and we do!) the worst 6 words you can use in a first message are all stupid slang.”"

“If you’re a guy, be self-effacing (Translation: “Don’t be a jackass”)

Awkward, sorry, apologize, kinda, and probably all made male messages more successful, yet none of them except sorry affects female messages. As we mentioned before, pretty, no doubt because of its adverbial meaning of “to a fair degree; moderately” also helps male messages. A lot of real-world dating advice tells men to be more confident, but apparently hemming and hawing a little works well online.”

Read the full article here…

 

Will the Internet ever run out of awesome?  No.  Exhibit A  from Gizmodo

“This is the Cup Size Choir, seven angels in lingerie singing seven notes at your command. They lie down, breathing sensually, waiting for you, ready to play Deck the Halls or whatever Christmas carol you want.

At the end of the exquisitely filmed short you will be able to play the Cup Size Choir yourself, using the ASDFGHJ keys—which, coincidentally, is exactly the noise I made when I discovered this site, made by Italian lingerie company La Senza. You can even record your performance and send it to your mom.”

quit wasting time and go play now.

http://www.cupsizechoir.com/

 

One of the most shocking things that struck me after my first few months in Hong Kong, was the fact that in a city filled with such fashion conscious, trendy, slim and beautiful women, this fashion nightmare is an all too common sighting as I walk down the street:

Cant Wear This!

Cant Wear This!

Now, I don’t know what they’re called and I don’t know where they came from, but someone is to blame and should be kicked out of the fashion industry ASAP, because ladies, guys don’t want to date a girl who looks like she is wearing a diaper.   Except maybe Germans.  Those guys are into weird stuff.  And no, even though he did this, you can’t blame Hammer  for the continued existence of the Hammer Pants.

Dear Fashionistas: Please let this fashion don’t die a swift and painful death. It’s actually worse than this.

 

This summer, I spent a day at the races in Happy Valley.  Nice day.  Hot as shit, but still.  Sat in the stands near a couple that seemed quite cute. aaawww. Then, around race 5, I realized the guy had been carrying the girl’s purse THE ENTIRE TIME!  Good lord man, you’re girlfriend must already have girlfriends, do you need to be another?

Speaking of terrible things men in Hong Kong do...

Has anyone seen either of my testicles?

And the shirt could not be more ironic if it said “I am an ironic shirt”. It says “Master” BTW.  jesus.

Guys, girls like guys.  Well, some girls like girls too (awesome), but if they want to be with a dude they often want to be with someone who is less well made up and has worse taste in accessories than they do.  Crazy, I know.  I spent quite a few nights recently listening to girls bitching about men in Hong Kong being totally wussified and doing shit like carrying around their girlfriend’s purse all day.  There are rules.  One Block.  That’s how long you can carry around your girlfriend’s purse while she applies lipstick, fixes her bra, whatever.  That’s it. Unless she has some terrible injury, you should not be walking around carrying a goddamn purse.  If she can’t carry it, she should get a smaller freaking purse.

Even my gay friends don’t haul around purses that goddamn big.  Neither should you.

 

Good God in Heaven.

“The Japanese resort town of Atami is so desperate for customers that it’s launched a new promotion aimed at providing the perfect romantic getaway for real-life men—and their video game girlfriends. More than 1,500 men have taken the bait, flying to Atami to recreate the ultimate date on the Love Plus+ game for the Nintendo DS, the Wall Street Journal reports.”

Read on…

 

I am going to get around to critiquing this site, because there are a few things that are very much wrong with some of the advice doled out here, but nonetheless, it’s got some useful stuff, so read on, but come back Monday Tuesday (promise!), because as I look into it further, there is even more amiss than I first thought.  My comments in bold.

Here’s where they are coming from:

“Do you think your man is cheating on you?  Don’t let him get away with it.  Cheating men always leave signs.  Here at  WomanSavers.com, we have compiled a list of the most common cheating men signs.  Use them to your advantage and don’t let him get away with it!  You Go Girl!

Also, there are many website out there such as  Ashleymadison.com and adultfriendfinder.com who specialize in promoting discrete affairs between married and committed people.  Make sure your husband or boyfriend is not advertising on these sites!  Some other sites he may be frequenting are theeroticreview.com, which is the internet’s largest escort site, in addition to bigdoggie.net.  This is another easy way for your man to cheat without you ever knowing.  Thanks!  I had not heard of bigdoggie (adds to bookmarks). Also, approximately 5 guys have ever hooked up on Ashley Madison or AFF.  If your man is spending money on that, you should break up with him because he is a moron.

Before you read the below information, please note one of the easiest way to “Catch a Cheater” is to set a trap.  99.9% of the time, cheating men will cheat when their partner is out of town or when the cheater is traveling.  Tell your partner you are leaving for the weekend and then wait and watch.  (Yeah, crouch in the bushes, that’s sane) If he doesn’t come home all night, he could be at another woman’s house or  a hotel, in which case you would have to follow him.  Otherwise, he may bring her to his or “your” house.  Remember the old saying….”when the cat’s away, the mouse will play.”  It’s very true.” Or, he could be passed out on his buddie’s couch after a night of heavy drinking and discussing what he’s going to do about the fact that you tried to put an ankle bracelet on him in his sleep.

So, yeah, not a lot of faith here.  You’d almost think they live in Hong Kong.

READ ON and stay tuned for part 2.

But before you ladies get on your high horse…check yourselves

“But we need to take a closer look at the statistics on affairs to determine what they can contribute to an understanding of our sexual patterns. While affairs happen in non-marital, “committed” relationships as well as within marriage, most of the statistics deal only with “extramarital” affairs. These statistics began with Kinsey’s reports in the 1940′s and early 1950′s. Kinsey’s samples included 5,000 men and showed that by age 40, 50 percent of the men had experienced extramarital sexual intercourse. Kinsey’s original samples of 6,000 women showed that by age 40, 26 percent of the women had experienced extramarital sexual intercourse.

Later studies dealing exclusively with men indicate a continuous increase in the number of men having extramarital affairs. The increase for women having affairs has been even more significant. Some of the statistics, both for men and for women, are extremely high and legitimately debated, but many people question any statistics on extramarital affairs, arguing that statistics are unreliable and confusing and that no one knows precisely how prevalent affairs are. While there are slight differences in the estimates based on clinical studies and questionnaires, the bottom line is compelling in showing an extremely high (and rising) incidence of extramarital affairs”

 

Okay, how do I keep meeting people who are unaware of this?

http://www.urbancougar.com/c-86-cougars.aspx

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