The title speaks for itself, but I’ll say this.  While this was a regrettable outcome, meeting someone online is no different than meeting a stranger in the “real world”.  You have to use your best judgement and be careful. No amount of checking can filter out all the creeps and crazies in the world.

From Cnet:

“You never know whom you are meeting on dating sites.

Now, one California woman is trying to get a court to declare that you actually should be told the bare minimum: whether your potential date is a convicted sex offender.

The woman, identified in legal papers as Jane Doe, is suing Match.com, according to ABC News.

Her attorney, Mark Webb, held a press conference this week to explain the philosophy behind the suit. He said his client had no reason to believe that the man she met through Match.com had previously been convicted of sexual battery.

Criminal charges are pending in the incident alleged in the civil suit, according to ABC.

“When somebody uses their credit card to pay, [Match.com should] basically run the card through a sexual offender database,” Webb said. ABC reported that a Match.com lawyer said the company is unable to create such a screening system. It’s a little unclear why, though.

 

If you’ve looked into online dating at all in Hong Kong, then you’ve probably come across ads for hongkongcupid.

In a nutshell, HKC “is a good dating site targeted to people looking to find Hong Kong girls for love, friendship, romance or marriage. They provide you with the bread and butter dating features: you can search Hong Kong single profiles, look for Hong Kong ladies seeking marriage, as well as chat, or find a pen-pals. This is one of the largest Hong Kong dating sites online and they have a nice selection of profiles and pretty responsive members. You can join for free and start meeting Hong Kong singles today!”

Yes, I took that from a website that insinuates that it is an unbiased source for online dating reviews.  Um, it’s not.  It’s run by a marketing company that simply wants to drive through traffic and generate as many clicks as possible.  This is why you have me, to cut through the B.S.

That said, HKC is not a bad site and it’s legit, unlike some sites out there that have tons of fake profiles or are just sending you through to other sites.  It’s simply unremarkable and not unlike most of the mass marketed sites out there.  In fact, it’s owned by Cupid Media, who own about a zillion sites like Japan Cupid, Gay Cupid AND Christian Cupid, etc.  Oh, and can’t forget BBW Cupid.   Seriously.

There do seem to be lots of active members, as a search for people in Hong Kong between 27 and 40, who have been online in the last month, generated many pages of results.  And as far as I can tell, they are all honest to goodness real people.  One note, however, is that about 95% of the women are Chinese or other Asian origin.  The men, on the other hand, seem to be a MUCH more diverse group.  Black, White, Yellow, Brown, Green, you name it.  Bottom line, there is a good selection of people on Hong Kong Cupid and you could certainly do worse on other sites.

So, let’s get to the price.  You can sign up for free of course, but you can’t contact other free members or read their emails.  So, if you’re really serious about finding someone, you’re going to have to shell out some cash.  You can opt for either a Gold or Platinum membership.  Gold will cost you $150 for a one moth membership compared to $200 for Platinum.  What’s the difference?  I’ll let them tell you in their own words.

Now, the prices are not bad, better than a lot of comparable sites, but here’s the deal.  Ultimately, the only real difference between a gold and platinum membership is that you can send and receive voicemail and videomail messages with a platinum membership.  Guess what?  You do not need that.  In fact, you do not need most of the bells and whistles they offer.  What you need is to be able to send and receive email, so a gold membership will do just fine.

Of course, they offer a discounted sliding price scale if you sign up for longer periods.  Do not do this.  You can improve your profile and status by only signing on for a month at a time.   How?  Well, I know a couple secrets, but that’s the kind of thing I can only tell my clients at Hong Kong Hitch Date Site Review: Hongkongcupid.com

There are still sites out there that I prefer to Hong Kong Cupid, but it’s generally not bad and probably worth your time and a little cash.

Grade: B

 

We’re going to go on a slightly unromantic bent today and discuss some of the numbers that will hopefully convince those of you that are skeptical of online dating to give it a go.  HKH first tried online dating back in 1998, when the Internets were just starting to really take off in the U.S.  Was I too unattractive to find girls at bars or parties?  I have evidence that suggests not.  Did I not have friends that could introduce me to potential romantic partners?  Again, no.  Was I really busy and working in a law firm in the middle of night for months on end, with less time to be able to devote to socializing?  Bingo!  And I’ve found that that is often the case with a lot of Hong Kongers.

Let’s face it, if you’ve been in Hong Kong for more than a year or two, you’ve likely exhausted the possibilities of meeting friends of friends to get set up on blind dates with.  Or, you’ve done it and it simply hasn’t worked out.  Well, HKH encourages you to continue looking for dates the old fashioned way, but it also wouldn’t hurt for Hong Kongers to catch up with their counterparts in other big cities and utilize the Internet a bit more effectively.  And hey, lucky you, you have HKH to give you guidance on what and what not to do when you dive into the online dating pool.

But, if you need a little more evidence, take a look at the results from a Pew Research poll that debunks some of the myths about who uses online dating and how well it works.

Pew Online Dating Report

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